What Creates Trust?
I had subscribed to her e-magazine
for several months. I found her blog and subscribed to her RSS
feed. Every other day or so I got a notice of something she
had written. Some I stopped to read, some I copied to save,
and some I skipped over knowing I wasn't ready or wasn't interested
in the information.
One day I said to myself, "This
has value to me. I want to become an affiliate of her work and
tell others about her." And I did.
What brought to me that decision?
What shift occurred to make me decide her work had value to
me? How had I arrived at that point? What, I wondered, creates
trust?
Trust Is Built Over Time
My process in reaching this
decision, had taken time. I was drawn to her energy by all the
magical ways we are drawn or led to each other. I accepted her
invitation to opt in to her newsletter. It apparently came at
times that worked for me, (as in not too often) and most of
all, I liked what I read. I learned something, it triggered
new ideas, it made a difference in my awareness and spawned
new insights.
Trust Involves Similar Values
Trust often involves identifying
with the person's values and respecting or being stimulated
by what they say and do. Sometimes trust involves feeling safe
and comfortable with someone. We trust someone's success, when
we see them accomplish what we'd like to do. We trust someone's
integrity when we seem the choices they make in adverse situations.
How do I build trust in myself?
If I want to build trust with
you, what do I do? I begin by expressing my true self-not some
version of what I think you might want to hear. I place myself
deeply in service. Then I give and give and give some more.
I fill my contributions to our relationship with value. I fully
participate in our exchange with joy and love and respect.
Trust Is Vital To Success
Trust is something we must build
in our business and our lives. Our clients and customers must
trust us to deliver what we promise. They must trust us to keep
our word and act with integrity. Trust is something we must
have in a nourishing relationship. We can't push trust, we can
only nurture it and let it find its own footing.
Exchange Is The Reward
The reward of trust in relationships
is exchange. Whether it is a service or a product or friendship,
we must continually place ourselves in the service of others.
Over time, they will come to trust us, our product, our services,
and our friendship.
Keep In Touch-Give Your Best
Trust comes from continued contact.
Whether it is phone calls, letters, e-mails, or e-magazines,
communication is the key to building trust. Who do you need
to contact today? Where would you like to deepen your trust?
In your work environment, in your business, in your life, bring
to it the best you have within you and trust will follow.
Trust Builds Confidence
When you have built a trusting
relationship, people will have confidence in you, they will
believe in you and your ability. They will have faith that you
will provide value at every turn. They will ask for your service,
your product, or your advice.
Trust Is The Basic Factor Needed
For Cooperation
When we trust, when we open
our eyes to another's humanness, it makes room for a natural
flow of openness and affection. It clarifies our understanding
of each other. Trust allows us to be honest with each other,
to be affectionate, to take risks and love.
Build Trust
Increase the value of your service.
Give more that is expected in your home, in your work, in your
life. Work to build long lasting relationships that are mutually
nurturing, that provide for and sustain you. As Mother Teresa
said, "Go out into the world today and love the people
you meet. Let your presence light new light in the hearts of
people."
© 2006 Cara Lumen
